How to remove Toxic people from your life...

I love my life. I love how easy it has become,how I wake up looking forward to the day and what it has in store for me or what exciting,fun activity I have planned with the boys. Even those romantic date nights my fiancee & I plan so we can spend time together. Everything,to me,is perfect.

Don't get me wrong,there are days where things get a little complicated but it's nothing that I can't handle. However it wasn't always like this. I had a very poor habit of letting negative,judgmental,jealous,abusive, drama causing people into my life. Why? Because I believed people were who they said they were. Then later I got burned & saw them for who they truly were.

I believe that we never have anyway of truly knowing anyone until it's too late. Which I have found to be one of the best lessons that life has to teach us.It's great to meet & make new friends! but it's also important to recognize an unhealthy relationship weather it be dating,friends or family.


 
What I consider to be an unhealthy relationship with bad vibes include are:
     
                   
Anyone who constantly has negative things to say when something exciting happens to you.

Politely puts you down

Makes you feel  or tells you that your stupid

Makes you feel small,insignificant,unimportant

Makes you feel like your not good enough

Someone who likes to embarrass you by publicly pointing out your flaws

Tries to make you feel guilty for what you have worked hard for & earned

Someone who jealous to the point where they hurt your feelings & don't care

Someone who bullies you mentally,emotionally & physically

Spreading untrue rumors about you to your friends,family,boss,spouse & Co-workers

Being two faced

Causing unwanted drama in your life

Purposely hurting your feelings

Someone who feels zero guilt or remorse for putting you through anything that hurts you emotionally,mentally & physically

Someone who is controlling




 Claim your Happiness!...


If you have or are experiencing anything on the list above  I am very sorry. It sucks but the good news is that you don't have to deal with ANY of these things anymore.

You have every right to eliminate people out of your life for good who make you feel bad about yourself. Who pick on you,who bully you etc. Anyone who is your friend,family or loved one would never want you to feel bad about yourself or the good things that you have gained,worked hard for & have accomplished in your life. They would celebrate & be happy for you! Excited with you! That sounds like it would feel good,right? You can have that.You are deserving to have that. Everyone is. The one thing that I always told myself & other people have told me is that they felt undeserving of anything. That's very toxic thinking which can sadly be placed into your head by jealous,toxic people. Don't believe it & don't believe them. Keep your joy!




You CAN be selfish...

You can be selfish in this aspect of your life. Every once in awhile I will meet new people who seem great at first! We get along,go places together & have a good time. But eventually I start to notice the negative vibes coming in. Then I finally see that persons true colors. When that happens I tell myself

"No,I can't hold on to a friendship like that,I need good,positive vibes,not drama."

After I have made my decision to remove toxic people like that out of my life I move on. I don't even think about that person anymore. It's not worth it to me you know?  You can do that too. There is no shame in doing so & it doesn't make you a bad person. If that person makes you feel bad or does any of the things that are listed above you have any and all rights to keep that bad shit out of your life!




 Reboot & Spend some alone time...

I know there is probably someone reading this who thinks that this part is impossible to do. I can guarantee you that is & it's probably one of the best things that you can do for yourself. You can do this for as long as you like. When I first tried this I gave myself a month. Which turned into two months,then 6 months to a year or more I had become at peace with myself. I felt stronger as a single mother & as a women.I had regained & restored my confidence. It actually helped me get through the passing of my father.

I sat down & made a list of things that I wanted to do,alone,that I enjoyed. Going on a shopping spree,having a spa weekend,going to concerts,meeting up with genuinely,true friends for lunch. I was working hard & I deserved to do the things that I enjoy & still do these things till this day.

Then I made a list of things that I could with my son which was so fun! It brought us closer together.

I also made a list of the things that I didn't want in my life. That list after I read it seemed very selfish & cruel.They were the things,people that were bringing me down and making me miserable. After I read this list suddenly it didn't seem so selfish anymore. I did this for three years,not because that was how long I planned if it for but because it was honestly the happiest that I had been in years. It prepared me for the wonderful life that I have now.   

I hope that what you have read has been helpful in some way.. And if your not ready to try what I tried then that's okay! You will find your own unique way of weeding out bad vibes & toxic people. I hope that your journey will be as peaceful as mine was

Till next time my dear friends <3

Getting back on track...

The Boston Heart Test...


Before my second pregnancy,before I met my fiance & we started this amazing life that we have with our kids,my health was completely out of whack. I made an appointment with my doctor & he suggested that I take The Boston Heart Test. How this test is done is you have your blood drawn & sent to the lab. From there this test breaks down everything & checks it out in your body. The test results do take at least two weeks to come back but I assure it's definitely worth the wait.



The Results...


When I received my results it wasn't exactly the greatest of news. My thyroid levels were through the roof which became an easy fix with medication called Levothyroxine. My Metabolic tests however were far from great. My insulin levels/numbers came back at 38. My doctor diagnosed me as borderline diabetic. This was pretty scary news for me. Both of aunt's on my mothers side were both insulin dependent. The thought of having to take shots everyday or another pill wasn't what I wanted in my life & an immediate change to my diet was the only answer. If I chose not to take on  healthier habits I would be a diabetic by the next year. Since I already had other health issues that I was taking care of preventing this issue was at the top of my to do list.





The Good News...

My doctor told me that I didn't have to worry about going an extreme diet. It could easily be fixed by cutting out all processed foods such as frozen dinners,processed snacks,processed foods,fast foods,cutting out all sugar and substituting Splenda for baking,tea or coffee,etc. My doctor made some very good suggestions that mad the thought of a healthier diet seem less boring. I could have healthy fats such as avocados,I could have chicken,steak with the fat cut off or lean beef,increase my water intake,I could use real butter instead of imitation butters,cooked veggies that were well seasoned, 1% milk which I had no issues with,oatmeal or fat free greek yogurt with any type of fruit that I want which is very filling btw. After discussing these new food possibilities I was more than confident that I was in control and could bring my numbers down.



Exercise is Key with Hypothyroidism...


I was also encouraged to start going to the gym. Even if I just sat on a bicycle for and hour it was good enough to help my get my blood pumping my my body the movement that it needed. Now please keep in mind that this was not something that changed my life within a few months but over a year! Due to having Hypothyroidism it takes a person much longer to lose weight & get in shape than a normal,healthier person would. This should squash the whole "Oh your just saying that because your too lazy" statement that ass holes like to throw out there. I suggest googling "Hypothyroidism" or you can look up Fit Rocker Chick on YouTube who is a thyroid expert as well as fitness expert.

I was going to the gym 4 days per week & spending at least 2 or 3 hours doing my workout routine that was given to me by my personal trainer. Again,I slowly saw improvement & was feeling better than I had been in years! I was addicted in a healthy way!




Hard work equals great Reward...



A year and a half later I went back to my doctor 7 had another Boston Heart Test done. After waiting for two weeks for my results I blew my doctor & his staff away by dropping my insulin levels down from 38 to 14!! I lost inches around my waist,my thighs and my butt. I made it a point at that time to NOT even get on a scale.I felt that for me it would have put more pressure on me & make me feel less accomplished if I didn't loose one or two pounds a week. It worked best for me,obviously & put my mind at ease. I took up meditating which I highly recommend. I didn't take classes but I found an app on Google Play called Calm. I thought why not give it a shot? I really couldn't afford to pay for classes at the time. It has been very helpful for me. It helps me keep my mind centered,focused & I'm not as strung out during the week like I had been.

Also...Wine helps too. Haha!




 Getting back on Track...


So I am now in the process of getting my health back on track as before. After my second pregnancy I started to notices similar issues resurfacing again. One of them being dizzy & tired all of the time after I ate something. I am struggling getting back into my old routine again but I am slowly feeling better. But the good news is that I'm finding all kinds of new recipes to try & even a few vegan dishes that look pretty good! I will be posting my Grocery list as my next post for anyone that may be curious about changing their diet or needs a little inspiration trying to get on track. I will also post my vitamin supplements that I take on a daily basis and where you can purchase them.

Hope to see you back here soon my lovelies!